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The Unfiltered Truth

Insights by Smitten

See how age shapes our behavior & guilty pleasures.

Every day, thousands of people on Smitten play Guessary — a social icebreaker where you guess how someone answered a personal question, then reveal the truth. The data below comes from over 125 real questions answered by real users across Denmark, Iceland, Norway, and Sweden. None of it is hypothetical. These are things people actually admitted to.

What the numbers reveal is surprisingly consistent: age reshapes almost everything. Confidence climbs, guilt fades, and priorities shift in ways that are both predictable and deeply human. The questions that divide 20-year-olds barely register with 40-year-olds — and the things older users confess to would make their younger selves cringe. Scroll through and see where you fall.

The things people actually admit to

Most people assume their desires are more unusual than they really are. The data says otherwise.

People believe in love more as they get older, not less

The assumption is that cynicism grows with age. The data doesn't agree.

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I have lived in a different country

I have stolen something

I am afraid of something

I have finished a book in the past year

Both my parents are alive

I drink alcohol

I eat breakfast every morning

I can speak more than two languages

I can solve a Rubik’s Cube

I have hooked up with a total stranger

I have a side hustle

I am scared of heights

I have a celebrity crush

I am a good kisser

I have an unusual talent

I am adventurous

I like pineapple on pizza

I like to read

I believe in love at first sight

Belief in love at first sight grows with age

I have made out with a stranger

I am a night owl

I have picked up a hitchhiker

I have had braces

I have been on a duo date

I am addicted to something

I am a player

I am a virgin

I sing in the shower

I want to have children

I meditate

I am an only child

I have used my phone in the shower

I hold grudges

I have gone skinny dipping

I have been in a fight

I believe in karma

I have DM’d a celebrity

I have been in love

By 45, almost everyone has been in love

I have bad habits

I have dumped someone over text

I have tattoos

I have had Covid-19

I have missed a flight

I enjoy camping

I like spicy food

I can change a tire

I have taken a naked picture of myself

I have slept with more than ten people

The number jumps dramatically after 25

I believe climate change is real

I enjoy watching reality TV

I have a sexual fantasy

I am a risk-taker

I am always late

I have a bachelor's degree

I have a favorite food

I am active on TikTok

I have had an affair

Affairs triple between your 20s and 40s

I am successful

I would like to live forever

I have made someone breakfast in bed

I know magic tricks

I sleep with my socks on

I know how to play chess

I have been dumped

I can keep a houseplant alive

I am afraid of ghosts

I have kids

I have tried yoga

I have felt like someone is following me

I would consider a long-distance relationship

I am flexible

I play video games

I enjoy going fishing

I like ice cream

I have participated in a talent show

I have seen someone die

I drink coffee

Somewhere after 40, coffee becomes part of the personality

I have tried BDSM

I think the earth is flat

I have a photo of myself on my lockscreen

I have superstitions

I hate dogs

I want a friend with benefits

I have been bungee jumping

I have gotten wasted on a date

I have been to a strip club

Strip clubs are a rite of passage after 35

I often snooze in the morning

I have cheated on a test

I have had a sexually transmitted disease (STD)

I like horror movies

I believe in life after death

I have attended a music festival

I have pets

I like to dance

I have thought about someone else during sex

I have passed out from drinking

I like dirty talk

I have lived with a roommate

I have broken a bone

I like my job

I enjoy hiking

I own cryptocurrency

I have been in a helicopter

I enjoy board games

I am religious

Religion climbs steadily with age

I have allergies

I have been injured in a dumb way

I have been arrested

I have run a marathon

I like kids

I have witnessed a crime

I have fired a gun

I have a driving license

I have tried drugs

I can whistle

I have traveled solo

I have been to a fortune teller

I have had to run from the police

I have piercings

I regret things in life

I work out regularly

I have a friend I don't like

I watch sports

I have had sex in public

I talk in my sleep

I have used food during sex

I bring my own snacks to the movies

I have been on a terrible date

I have failed a class

I think age matters in a relationship

I believe in horoscopes

I have stolen money from a friend

I consider myself normal

Only 31% of young adults think they're normal

I enjoy road trips

I enjoy solving puzzles

I would change something about my body

I have a bucket list

I have been in an accident

I set personal goals

I have gone skydiving

I would want to know when I am going to die

I have failed a test

I am an iPhone user

The iPhone generation gap is real

I believe vaccines work

I like receiving gifts

I play an instrument

I have cheated in a game

I could be the president

I like going to concerts

I am a Type A person

I have a fetish

I have more than $10k in my bank account

I think workplace dating is wrong

Hot dogs are sandwiches

I use nicotine

I sleep naked

I pay on the first date

I have been scuba diving

I have cried during a movie

I can lick my elbow

I have been surfing

I have kissed someone of the same sex

I have had a near-death experience

I am vegan

I am afraid of the dark

I am a good singer

I have been on TV

An egg salad is a chicken salad

I care where I sit on an airplane

I am spontaneous

I dream about my wedding

I like to cook food